the paradox of love
I would hate to see the one I love happy with somebody but I surely hate it more to see the one I love unhappy with me... life is so complicated ... feelings far more complicated ... you can hardly hate someone you love ... not even when the person hurts you ... the above quote is not exactly true in the use of the word 'hate' in the first part ... a person cannot hate to see the person happy for whom there is love in the heart ... it can be sad if you are not part of the happiness ... it can be painful ... it can be exruciatingly painful .. yes .. but you cant hate that situation .. your happiness is often tied to the happiness of the person you love ... BUT ... what if you become the source of pain for the person you love ... then what do you do ? Do you push that person away from you to protect them from yourself ... in this you will cause pain to yourself no doubt but at the same time you will also cause pain to the same person you love .. so u end up causing pain to avoid...